How many times have you heard women say, “I don’t get along with other women because they’re catty?” Never. Only immature girls state things like that. Though, I will admit, as we get older and begin to settle into adulthood, we tend to forget about our girlfriends. However, adulthood is one of the most crucial times in our lives where we need our girlfriends. The stress that we deal with cannot be explained to our male friends.
Girlfriends are essential because they are your extended sisters, which is even greater if you have no siblings. Even if you do not have a huge circle of friends, you need at least one ride-or-die that you can talk to on a regular basis. This allows you to have a built-in therapist, but, unlike a therapist, your friend(s) will tell you what you need to hear rather than a never-ending series of “And how does that make you feel?” type questions. Plus, whether or not they agree with your argument, they will not judge you. Your spouse won’t give you that same objective point of view. By having a trusting circle of friends who know you, and have known you for a while, your friends will serve as your confidantes.
Your friends should be a breath of fresh air. No matter how much you love your career, significant other or your “me time,” your friends should always offer relief from it all. The great thing about having a great circle of friends is that you do not have to see them everyday in order to have fun. Having a weekly/monthly girls day or night allows you to constantly renew your bond with your girls without having to always be social or go out.
The meaningful nature of the relationship you form with your girlfriends is definitely contingent upon picking the right circle of friends, which can take years of tweaking and switching out like a Destiny’s Child album. However, in the end, it is definitely worth it.